Taking Responsibility

I haven't made a blog post in a while and it not that theres nothing to write or talk about contrary to that there has been a mountain load of thoughts and an even bigger mountain load of draft post, they all just seem inadequate to publish or something or other. Anyway something important i have learnt in the last couple of months begs sharing.

Taking responsibility is something everyone wants to avoid at least I have always tried to avoid it, exuding this confident and accountable character whereas deep down I'd rather just blame other people for different mishaps whether they are trivial or exceptionally life changing.

Its easy to put our shortcoming on others, an absent father, an unsupportive mother, an abusive spouse, a backstabbing friend [insert as appropriate] as the list is endless. However, I do not intend to imply that such unfavorable circumstances are insufficient to debilitate the success of an individual.

I have been taking a particular bus 7am every morning for at least the last two years apart from days am not working of course but I only recently spotted a particular girl ( I began to see her everyday for the next two months). So one day, we finally spoke to each other, often when you see someone everyday waiting about 5 to 10 mins for the bus you tend to fill the awkward silence with mindless chat about the weather. Only somehow, our chats were more than skin deep and talked about the important going ons of our life.

She is 16 and just about to finish high school, an absent father, an alcoholic mother and a sister who is resolved to having children as a means of livelihood. For a 16 year old she was outrightly forward thinking and she shocked me with her words. Her dreams are magnificent and her drive is beyond something I could describe. She wasn't prepared to let what life had dished her as mitigating be the mould for her life.

For the next few days on the bus, all I could think of were my dreams and passion and how a few setbacks were beginning to make me weary but I am grateful for the conversations I had with her. With her was an encounter to cherish.